The Power Of Choice To Overcome Fear

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Your freedom begins with one choice...the choice to push past fear, no matter what.

Choice is very powerful. When you make a real choice, mountains move to make way for you. And there is a dramatic difference between CHOICE and goals or desires. Choice is followed by action. Until you take action, what you have is a goal or desire which really are just thoughts and dreams.

I learned this when I DECIDED to quit my job and move to Jamaica. You see, for years (like since I was a teen), I've wanted to move to Jamaica. I had my daughter when I was 19 so that dream was diverted. But I set a goal for myself and said, “when my daughter turns 18 and goes off to College, I will move to Jamaica!” Well, she did, but I didn't. Then she was 19, 20, 21, 22, 23. YEARS passed and although I had no REAL reason not to make the move I didn’t do it.

I didn't do it because of fear. Fear that I had built up in my head because of the uncertainty and unknown. This fear, based on false evidence and mind stories, caused me to make up reason after reason. And these reasons SEEMED real because they were all manifested in my life. But what I failed to acknowledge was that they had manifested in my life because I thought about them over and over again as I mulled my “reasons."

F.E.A.R = False Evidence Appearing Real

Eventually, the discomfort of where I was (in that @^&^$B! cubicle) was too much. I felt like I was dying a slow death there. The cost of doing nothing now outweighed the cost of simply trying. I realized that I just had to push past the fear and finally decided that my freedom (and life) was much more important than any potential failures.

And when I finally DECIDED that I was going a funny thing happened, I just did it. I took action. No fuss. No drama. With ease, I just moved through the steps I needed to take to do it. It wasn't a wish or a desire it was just something I decided to make happen. Once I made the choice, the pieces and steps fell into place.

If you're still struggling to actually start (for real start) your online business or make any other major move in your life, it's because you haven't truly decided, and this is likely because of fear.

Let’s talk about using our power to choose to push past fear.


Your freedom begins with one choice...the choice to push past fear, no matter what.


ONE STEP

Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.
— Dale Carnegie

The first thing is to accept is that “Rome wasn’t built in a day.” It’s unlikely that you’ll ever know all of the steps it will take to fully take you from where you are to your dream being a reality - and this unknown scares most of us. But if you can accept that all you need to know is the first step and then after that, the next step, you break the massive vision of that dream down into daily actions. One step at a time. And how do you figure out that first or next step? Here is the awesome thing - In this digital age we live in you can learn how to do anything. If you take just that one step and then another, imagine how much closer you will be to that dream being a reality 365 steps from now?

Fear is powerful BUT NOT AS POWERFUL AS YOU ARE

May our choices reflect your hopes, not your fears.
— Nelson Mandela

Fear can be very powerful. It has the power to shut us down completely - when we let it. We tell ourselves all sorts of stories about things that haven't even happened yet, build up a massive fear monster in our heads, get overwhelmed and then shut down. We shut down emotionally, mentally, and then we shut down the screen for the sales page to that program that could help us instead of hitting BUY NOW, and we go back to the job we hate.

Here's what I know. Women are badass. From puberty to menopause we go through some physical things that "they" could NEVER handle. Childbirth?! I don’t know a single man that I think could handle that. And let's not even go there with all of the emotional stuff we go through. Hormones. Heartbreak. Living our lives always for others (parents, kids, man). We're FREAKING awesome, and when a woman wants to get something done, she will create magic to make it happen (shout out to my fellow single moms). Acknowledge that fear has all of NOTHING on you. In other areas of your life you’ve been afraid (may have shown up as worried) of something but you, badass woman that you are, made it happen.

Harness and leverage

Since you are more powerful, you can actually use fear to your benefit, so it doesn't have to be a bad thing. Many seasoned athletes, performers, and entrepreneurs say they still experience nervousness, which is a form of fear. They (and you can) use the fear as a driver to push them.

Let your fear serve a positive purpose. As a budding freedom entrepreneur use the fear, you feel about getting in the game and turn it around to the fear of still being at your desk when you're 50 and 60. Allow it to push you to finally start your business. Fear becomes a problem when you allow it to stop or handicap you - when you allow it to handcuff you and shackle you to that job you hate so much. Use it instead as a motivator that you use to propel you forward.


Fear becomes a problem when you allow it to stop or handicap you - when you allow it to handcuff you and shackle you to that job you hate so much.


Weigh your opportunity cost

The opportunity cost of an unlived dream is not only that dream, but also the dreams the dream was meant to inspire.
— Ryan Lilly


And on that note, consider the opportunity cost. It’s asking “What does it cost me to go after this opportunity?” The cost of going for or not going for your dream.

Do any of these sound familiar?:

I’m afraid that if I go for it in my business, that I’ll burn out. I’ll create a monster that will take over my life. It will be too much work, and I’ll lose my freedom; my free time; my energy and happiness. I’m afraid that I’ll have to work too hard and won’t have time for my kids.

This is what your current opportunity cost is based on your fear mindset. But what if you didn’t push past your fear and take action? What would be the cost of not taking action?

Time for some woo woo

Your desire is possibility seeking expression
— Wallace D Wattles

Know that your dreams have been placed within you for the purpose of being brought to life. They and you deserve the effort of pushing past fear to do just that - bring them to life.

Wallace D. Wattles says that wherever there is an unexpressed possibility, there is a desire and desire is possibility seeking expression.

Meaning, as long as you have a desire, that means that the possibility is there and seeking expression through you, but you need to DECIDE in order to activate the universe to start moving things to make it happen. God places within us the seed for the fruit we are to bear. Take action and cultivate it.

Your desire is universe knocking on your door. Fear is you peeping through the peephole and deciding to turn the lock.  

Truth is, knowing that your desire means that there is possibility, you should be able to see that there is no need to fear anything - your dreams are NOT impossible, and there is no need to fear what is MEANT for you. CHOOSE to push past the fear because as long as the unactioned desire is there because you’ve allowed fear to win, you will always be frustrated - and stuck.

Remember, F.E.A.R = False Evidence Appearing Real …it ain't real!


Your desire is universe knocking on your door. Fear is you peeping through the peephole and deciding to turn the lock


Don’t let the Fear demons rob you of your dream

So let's wrap up. You know that fear is powerful but that you are way more powerful and you can actually leverage it. You also know that your desire for a freedom business and lifestyle means that the possibility is there and seeking expression through you. Now make a choice not to let fear rob you of it.

Your fear of failure has built an imaginary wall between where you are, and where your dreams want to go, and choice is the tool to knock it down.

  • What does it take to start an online business? Choice. The steps are simple.
  • What does it take to move to Jamaica? Choice. The steps are simple.
  • What does it take to claim your freedom from the cubicle? Choice. The steps are simple.

CHOOSE. Otherwise this time next year you will be exactly where you are now. Stuck in your cube while you click around FB and IG stalking other Freedom Entrepreneurs and dreaming of better while settling for less.

SO WHAT'S A GIRL TO DO?

  • Accept that it will be a process. One step at a time
  • Acknowledge that fear can indeed be powerful but you are far more powerful. I like to tell myself  “I won this sh*t, I’m in control.”
  • Consider the opportunity cost of NOT doing anything and instead use fear to push you away from the current discomfort and toward the ??
  • Believe that your dreams are in you for a reason - to be brought to life through you
  • DECIDE and then take action
 
 

written by roxine grant

Roxine is a freedom business coach and lifestyle entrepreneur who helps women claim their freedom from their cubicle life. Visit her website

 
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